Make a list of the people in your life who make you feel good when they’re around, and bring out the best in you. They could be friends, family, a teacher or coach, someone at work or school, a neighbor.
Make a call, send a text, get together for lunch, or take a walk. Keeping those connections active is key!
If you’re in a relationship, ask yourself these questions:
- Do I feel supported?
- Do I feel safe?
- Can I be myself with them?
- Can I tell them how I really feel?
- Do I hold as much power as my partner in the relationship?
- Do we listen to each others’ concerns?
- Do I trust them?
- Do I feel good about myself when I’m with them?
Answering “no” to any of these may be a sign that this is not a supportive relationship. Think about making a change.
Sometimes the best way to feel connected and reduce your stress is to help other people.
Check in on someone you know who’s been going through a tough time.
Volunteer for a nonprofit or in a community service project. Become a Big Brother or Big Sister to a child who needs a caring person in their life.
You’ll get the satisfaction of helping, and the benefit of social connection.
Good communication can build trust, reduce misunderstandings, and strengthen your relationships.
- Express your thoughts and feelings honestly without expecting others to read your mind.
- Practice active listening. Pay full attention, don’t interrupt, ask questions, and show you care about what the other person is saying.
- Use “I” statements. Start sentences with “I feel…” or “I think…” to share your perspective and avoid blaming. This encourages open dialogue.
Expanding your social network can bring fresh perspectives to your life and strengthen your relationship skills.
- Get involved in school clubs, sports teams, or hobby groups.
- Explore social networking apps or platforms like Meetup to find events and groups.
- Start conversations with new people, such as classmates, neighbors, or people you encounter in your day-to-day.
- Show genuine interest in others and be friendly, even if it takes a few tries to find people you really connect with.
If you’re in a relationship that feels physically or emotionally unsafe, it’s important to seek support. Don’t keep it to yourself — reach out to professionals who can help.
California Parent & Youth Helpline: Call or text 85-427-2736 for immediate help and advice.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788 for confidential support and resources.
Your safety matters. Don’t hesitate to get the help you need.